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Why is it so hard to face our #anxiety? ⁣ ⁣ There’s an interesting insight offered in the psychoanalytic tradition – it’s possible to be anxious without knowing it. ⁣ ⁣ We might think we’re restless, burnt-out, bored, etc. Anything other…

Who are you when you’re not #anxious? ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ The only way to find out, is to work with the #anxiety, and then slowly, patiently watch it settle. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When we’re gripped by all the signs of feeling unsafe – agitation,…

Have you needed #therapy but felt embarrassed to give it a try?⁣ ⁣ Even in cultures where #psychotherapy is normative and common, it’s not unusual to feel anxious about exposing personal problems, especially to a stranger.⁣ ⁣ And yet, psychotherapy can reduce feelings of…

Loss hurts. And some losses feel unbearable. But when we find ways to hang in there, even turning toward the devastation of #loss, new capacities for feeling, for #empathy, and compassion emerge. Because we need others so profoundly, we will all form…

When we’re in pain, we just want it to stop. Makes sense. But if we get caught up in our defense against pain, the causes are likely to remain murky. #BuddhistPsychology encourages us to slow down when we’re going through anything…

All aspects of our being – mind, body, the capacity to think and feel – develop within relationship. ⁣ ⁣ In our earliest stages of life, we find ourselves through how we are mirrored and found by the people we…

If you have a relational history that has reinforced a tendency toward self-criticism and high levels of shame, fear of compassion will likely result. You might fear compassion from others, for others, and most especially, for yourself. ⁣ ⁣ It…

Having had bad neighbors and anxiety about any number of difficulties, I empathize. When going through experiences that feel threatening, the body and mind respond in ways that are meant to prepare us for action, but feel so uncomfortable, it’s…