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Loss hurts. And some losses feel unbearable.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But when we find ways to hang in there, even turning toward the devastation of loss, new capacities for feeling, for empathy, and compassion emerge.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Because we need others so profoundly,…

For many people, self-acceptance feels like submitting to defeat. The quest for self-improvement, especially in cultures that encourage focusing on all things external, can take over. Every endeavor is informed by the stress of trying to become something more, or…

Depression affects us all at some point. And yet, it can feel like we’re completely alone when depressed.⁣ ⁣ Sustaining feelings of connection, or even imagining that other people might care and want to help, is tough when depression takes…

Have you needed therapy but felt embarrassed to give it a try?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Even in cultures where #psychotherapy is normative and common, it’s not unusual to feel anxious about exposing personal problems, especially to a stranger.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And yet, psychotherapy…

It is human to long for conditions that bring well-being. Our dreams and fantasies are composed of these longings – for safety, loving relationship, a sense of adventure woven into life. But allowing for the possibility of what we long…

We all need to trust our ability to withstand our difficulties and challenges. But equally important, is finding a place within ourselves that remains open and steady so that opportunities for insight and growth are maximized. ⁣ ⁣ In #BuddhistPsychology, this…

When our suffering seems insurmountable, what we need most is patience. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Just staying, just tolerating what might feel intolerable. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Then, slowly, a new perspective can emerge, or even a new and unexpected gift of compassion from…

Some of us got the message early in life that we’re only as good as what we produce, fix, or accomplish. ⁣ ⁣ If you had an anxious parent, it’s likely that this message was strong, even if never directly…